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The exact origin of the wedding ring has always been a mystery and is rich with superstition and mythology. Documents dating back to the ancient Egyptians often depict wedding rings. Scholars and historians alike credit the Egyptians for with creating the tradition. Engagement or betrothal rings were in use as far back as prehistoric times, but the wedding ring is a relatively new tradition. Unlike the engagement ring, the wedding ring is deeply rooted in religious ritual.
In ancient times, accepting a wedding ring constituted a legally binding agreement between husband and wife. The wife became property of the husband and for the most part was considered just another part of his earthly belongings. The wedding ring also represented protection to the wife against anyone who would attempt to seize her legal and rightful position in a power grab.
Early Egyptian wedding rings were simple circular bands, crudely crafted from local materials such as hemp and reeds. These early rings didn’t last long and life expectancy seldom exceeded a year. In direct contrast to today’s society, it would be a safe bet to conclude the average marriage outlasted the average wedding band. Since it’s inception, the wedding band has been a symbol of the eternal circle and as such signified eternal love and devotion. The circle also represented the joining of two halves to create a whole. The hole in the center symbolized the gateway to the unknown-the future. Wedding bands made of ivory, leather, and other sturdy materials were soon introduced and more and more were handcrafted by those who desired a more permanent token of eternity.
Metals soon began to replace the earlier hemp, reed and leather wedding bands. The Romans made rings from lead, while other civilizations chose brass and copper. Gold finally emerged from most civilizations the metal of choice. Early Irish couples insisted on gold, as any other material was thought to bring bad luck, and many actually felt a marriage using rings made of anything but gold would not even be legal. Many young Irish couples could not afford gold wedding bands and this created one of the first “cottage industries”. Many people rented out gold rings to be used during the service and returned as soon as it was over.
Early designs were crude and adorned with semiprecious metals in an efforts to customize the handiwork. The color of the stones also held significance. The red ruby signified the heart, the blue sapphire signified the skies and the heavens, and the rare diamond’s indestructible nature signified the indestructible bond of marriage.
For a long time proper size and fit has played an equally important role in the realm of superstition and tradition. The fit had to be perfect. Too loose a fit would lead to an unhappy marriage full of sloppiness, carelessness, and even cause the couple to drift apart. Too tight, the fit would sentence a couple to a suffocating, painful, or otherwisse doomed marriage.
Since ancient times, the wedding band has been placed on the third finger, left hand just as today. The significance of the third finger was in the belief that the vein in the third finger, the “vena amoris,” led directly to the heart. This was a thought introduced by the Egyptians and adopted as truth by the ancient Greeks and Romans, until it was disproved in later years.
From the beginning of recorded history, the wedding band has always occupied the third finger with only one exception. (For a short period of time during the Elizabethan era it became popular that weddings rings be worn on the thumb.) Even after the discovery that there was no vena amoris, the tradition of wearing the wedding band on the third finger survived. Early marriages most often included a ritual that placed the wedding band on the third finger: As the priest recited, “In the name of the Father, the Son, and the holy Ghost,” he took the ring and touched the thumb, the first finger, and then the second finger. When he said, “Amen,” he placed the ring on the third finger, thus sealing the marriage.